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Monday, August 14, 2017

Actual Memories Recovered?

 
recovered memories       These studies explain how it is possible for those who were abused to forget that it happened.  Anyone who has read other posts on this blog would have a hard time not interpreting this statement as a direct contradiction of all previous posts.   Please read the very brief article below and allow the following information to explain. Dr. McNally, who has conducted dozens of studies on memories of sexual abuse victims, says people don’t forget a trauma.  They might forget something like being fondled as a child IF the fondling was not traumatic because the child did not understand the event at the time.  Dr. McNally argues. "It might be disgusting, upsetting–but not terrifying, not traumatic."


Here is an article explaining that research:

Recovered Memories 
of Sexual Abuse

       Although no longer a major focus of our research, we have conducted studies testing cognitive mechanisms in people reporting recovered memories of childhood sexual abuse.  The major take-home message of our research is as follows.  There appears to be no convincing evidence that people can repress (or dissociate) memories of truly traumatic events that they have encoded.  However, some people who experienced childhood sexual molestation in their childhood, but who did not experience the events as traumatic, may forget their abuse for many years, yet recall it upon encountering reminders in adulthood.  Interpreting their molestation through the eyes of an adult, they often experience PTSD symptoms.  Accordingly, people may forget and “recover” memories of abuse that they did not experience as traumatic at the time of their occurrence.  They forget the memories not because they were traumatic and thus “repressed,” but rather because they did not experience them as traumatic at the time they occurred.
       Those who experience trauma, rather than suppressing that traumatic memory, find it impossible to completely forget that memory.  Traumatic memories are significant to a victim precisely because they are NEVER forgotten.

Related Articles:

McNally, R. J. (2012). Searching for repressed memory. In R. F. Belli (Ed.), True and false recovered memoriesToward a reconciliation of the debate (pp. 121-147). Vol58Nebraska Symposium on Motivation. New York: Springer.
http://mcnallylabcom.ipage.com/beta/wp-content/uploads/mcnally-2012-nebraska-repression1.pdf
https://www.counterpunch.org/2016/02/29/oscar-hangover-special-why-spotlight-is-a-terrible-film

Grandfather visits Grace and children prior to memory based therapy in 2015.


Saturday, July 2, 2016

Health and Freedom


Freedom!
     A therapy that relies on the strength and goodness of the individual is an improvement over a therapy that blames the past and creates "memories". Experts agree that "Recovered Memory Therapy" is unreliable and false even when "memories" are vividly remembered.  In contrast to the destructive and unreliable therapies, Cognitive Therapy emphasizes that there are traps that hold people back from fully realizing their potential including:

1.  Assuming the intentions of others:  We assume that we know what people think without having sufficient evidence of their thoughts. “He thinks I’m a loser.”  This is destabilizing to relationships whether assumptions are correct or incorrect.
2.  Dire expectations:  We predict the future negatively: things will get worse, or there is danger ahead. “I’ll never be able to see my family again.” or “I won’t be able to be a good mother to my children." 
3.  Catastrophizing:  We believe that what has happened or will happen will be so awful and unbearable that you won’t be able to stand it. “It would be terrible if I failed.”  "If I get back in contact with my family they will all hate me."
4.  Labeling:  We assign global negative traits to yourself and others. “I’m undesirable,” or “He’s a rotten person.” or "My family are all horrible.  They hate me."
5.  Discounting positives:  We claim that the positive things you or others do are trivial. “That’s what wives are supposed to do—so it doesn’t count when she’s nice to me,” or “Those successes were easy, so they don’t matter.”
6.   Negative filtering:   We focus almost exclusively on the negatives and seldom notice the positives. “Look at all of the people who don’t like me.”
7.   Overgeneralizing:   We perceive a global pattern of negatives on the basis of a single incident. “This generally happens to me. I seem to fail at a lot of things.”
8.   Dichotomous thinking:   We view events or people in all-or-nothing terms. “I get rejected by everyone,” or “My family is bad.  I need to detach from them completely.”  
9.   Blaming:    We focus on the other person as the source of our negative feelings, and we refuse to take responsibility for changing ourselves. “My parents parents caused all my problems.  They always deny it.  If only my family was not "so abusive" or "so cheap".”
10.  What if?   We keep asking a series of questions about “what if” something happens, and we fail to be satisfied with any of the answers. “Yeah, but what if I get anxious?,” or “What if  my family contacts me when I have told them not to?”
11.  Emotional reasoning:   We let our feelings guide our interpretation of reality. “I feel depressed; therefore, my family must be terrible.”
12.  Inability to disconfirm:  We reject any evidence or arguments that might contradict our negative thoughts.  For example, when we have the thought  I have this depression so I must have had a childhood trauma and then we reject as irrelevant any statements or evidence of all in our immediate family that this event never happened. 

A partial list from Robert L. Leahy, Stephen J. F. Holland, and Lata K. McGinn’sTreatment Plans and Interventions for Depression and Anxiety Disorders (2012).

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