Friday, July 29, 2016

Our Grace was Hijacked!

Truth and communication are always helpful.  There was more communication in July of 2016.  The more truthful communications the better for everyone.
       After public confrontations and false accusations in June of 2015 based on pseudo memories all friends and family (the one's most knowledgeable ot the facts) who shared doubts or maintained historical truth that the described behaviors never happened were  quickly "cutoff".   
       Given Grace's vulnerability and experience  we do not think she is "lying" or being "deceptive".   Grace was subjected to memory recovery techniques well known to create pseudo-memories (fantasized events that are mistaken for historical events).   These false memories seem real to her.
       Pseudo-memories are documented to genuinely be mistaken for truthful memories.  Often these types of memories can be created through reactions to medication in conjunction with therapists using recovered memory techniques.  "Friends" using these therapy techniques combined with do it yourself therapy books or "prayer partners" can also create and nurture these false memories.  All of these techniques and programs are well known to generate pseudo-memories that seem real to the victim even if they are factually not true. 

        It presently appears that Grace and her husband (Kevin) limit communication ONLY to those who will accept that these false memories are true.l  The seek both sympathy and financial assistance.   Pseudo memories once called "repressed memories" were generated using techniques openly described in public posts.  The human mind is vulnerable when medicated, exhausted and in the throws of postpartum hormonal changes as our daughter was.  Unfortunately these "memories" may never be entirely eliminated under the medicated and isolated conditions that are imposed.
       In fact we have been threatened with restraining orders and litigation if we do not cease communication. 
       A sign of mental illness is estrangement from family.  The indications are such in this case as well.   Those with "pseudo memories" often never reconcile with their family after making the typically horrid false accusations.  Innocent people falsely accused by pseudo memories have experienced the loss of career, jail, criminal charges and prison.  Grace was in contact with two sisters and emailed other family members.  While things are not ideal  they are more tolerable than many other families who have been tragically harmed by this fraudulent approach to "healing".
       My husband and I are convinced that truth is the only way out of this.  We were initially advised to sue for defamation, but hesitated to give Grace time to cease her public accusations.   Those public false accusations did cease among those who truly knew these memories could not be true.  They continue to tell stories to those who have never met . We understand that genuine love requires that all coercion and threats cease. So we are hoping that the coercion and threats cease.
      We are praying for a genuine change of heart and for her to cease the attempts to recruit co-accusers, to discontinue dwelling on her false memories and to turn away from "digging up more memories" which actually means nurturing and creating more false memories.  Such change is always difficult especially while medicated, compromised by pseudo memories and having those who truly know you"cutoff".
     Some have expressed appreciation for the information and insights provided by this blog about some of the fraudulent mental health practices and spiritual quackery that exist.  Much of the public information gathered here will remain online for as long as google supports the "Blogger".  Details relating to our personal situation would not be needed once direct communication is possible again with the Reynolds family.
     The road she may have started will likely be longer than we would like.  Truth may foster healing but there are times when it is uncomfortable.  Join all her sisters and brother and mother and father in praying for her and her family to recover from this tragedy.  Pray for all of us to also have the patience and wisdom needed.

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Grace's last written communication written in 2014:

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THEN
 In 2015 after giving birth to a new child she shared with
her mother about being "depressed".
Grace reports that her doctor then diagnosed her with
"Post Traumatic Stress Disorder" 
and medicated her for "depression".
Friends, "counselor" or "prayer partner" provided
her with "guided imaging sessions".
This "technique" is well known to produce false memories. 
She had "blackouts" (shared in personally published accounts)
and the horrid pseudo memories were then nurtured.
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       The Witch Hunts of the 1690's  were driven by those who had "pseudo memories".   Fourteen Years after arrests, torture, trials and 20 state sponsored executions the most convincing and animated accuser recalled: 
 "I did it not out of any anger, malice or ill-will to any person, for I had no such thing against one of them, but what I did was [done] ignorantly . . . . I desire to lie in the dust, and to be humbled for it, in that I was a cause, with others, of so sad a calamity to them and their families."
Ann Putnam 1706
       Ann Putnam was an articulate and emotional false accuser who never intended to do evil.  She was a sincere believer in her memories that the accused appeared on top of her while in bed sleeping who" pressed down on her chest with great force."
       While in her early thirties Ann was depressed and weary  from caring for an ill child since birth.  She remembered images of people who physically restrained her and abused her.  They were identified as "witches".
       Those sympathetic to her plight encouraged her by stating that they believed in her false memories.  It is clear from written records and accounts that the false accusations she made were based on pseudo memories.  Others later joined in to corroborate and expand the accusations.  This American historical event came to be known as the "Salem Witch Trials".  The name assigned to those accused of being witches (and executed) were "deniers". In all 19 people, who all denied being witches, were executed by the state of Massachusetts based on the "memories" of events never corroborated by physical evidence or direct witnesses.  The only witnesses were the accusers who often obtained a portion of the estate of the executed in payment for the witchery that harmed them.
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Monday, July 4, 2016

Freedom From Mind Traps

     A therapy that relies on the strength and goodness of the individual is an improvement over a therapy that blames the past and "creates memories" that experts agree to be unreliable and false even if vividly remembered.  In contrast to the destructive and unreliable therapies Cognitive Therapy emphasizes that there are "traps" that hold people back from fully realizing their potential including:

1.  Assuming the intentions of others:  We assume that we know what people think without having sufficient evidence of their thoughts. “He thinks I’m a loser.”  This is destabilizing to relationships whether assumptions are correct or incorrect.
2.  Dire expectations:  We predict the future negatively: things will get worse, or there is danger ahead. “I’ll never be able to see my family again.” or “I won’t be able to be a good mother to my children." 
3.  Catastrophizing:  We believe that what has happened or will happen will be so awful and unbearable that you won’t be able to stand it. “It would be terrible if I failed.”  "If I get back in contact with my family they will all hate me."
4.  Labeling:  We assign global negative traits to yourself and others. “I’m undesirable,” or “He’s a rotten person.” or "My family are all horrible.  They hate me."
5.  Discounting positives:  We claim that the positive things you or others do are trivial. “That’s what wives are supposed to do—so it doesn’t count when she’s nice to me,” or “Those successes were easy, so they don’t matter.”
6.   Negative filtering:   We focus almost exclusively on the negatives and seldom notice the positives. “Look at all of the people who don’t like me.”
7.   Overgeneralizing:   We perceive a global pattern of negatives on the basis of a single incident. “This generally happens to me. I seem to fail at a lot of things.”
8.   Dichotomous thinking:   We view events or people in all-or-nothing terms. “I get rejected by everyone,” or “My family is bad.  I need to detach from them completely.”  
9.   Blaming:    We focus on the other person as the source of our negative feelings, and we refuse to take responsibility for changing yourself. “My parents parents caused all my problems.  They always deny it.  If only my family was not "so abusive" or "so cheap".”
10.  What if?   We keep asking a series of questions about “what if” something happens, and we fail to be satisfied with any of the answers. “Yeah, but what if I get anxious?,” or “What if  my family contacts me when I have told them not to?”
11.  Emotional reasoning:   We let our feelings guide our interpretation of reality. “I feel depressed; therefore, my family must be terrible.”
12.  Inability to disconfirm:  We reject any evidence or arguments that might contradict our negative thoughts.  For example, when we have the thought  I have this depression so I must have had a childhood trauma and then we reject as irrelevant any statements or evidence from all in immediate family that this event never happened. 

A partial list from Robert L. Leahy, Stephen J. F. Holland, and Lata K. McGinn’sTreatment Plans and Interventions for Depression and Anxiety Disorders (2012).
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WARNING: 
          If you are seeking help for personal struggles and a therapist, counselor or friend says that "recovering childhood memories can help you get better" then IMMEDIATELY get up from your chair (or off the couch), run to the door, open it and flee. Hundreds of thousands have lost families, years of productive living and squandered immense wealth with tragedy inducing therapy that produces horrid false memories, splinters families, isolates the client and is documented to cause decline in mental health.
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       Pseudo memories initially seem very real especially if medicated or entranced.  Those who claim "repressed memories" will typically isolate themselves from those who truly know the accused and speak the truth.  When and if the accuser eventually realizes falsehoods were articulated, isolation may continue out of shame.  Accused innocents may hide the embarrassing accusations in order to protect their reputation or reconnect.  Counselors separate from clients who no longer are dependent and seek to avoid lawsuit by claiming neutrality.  So then a "therapy" that nurtures the creation of falsehoods that are relayed as truth is empowered, through ignorance, to repeat the tragic cycle that destroys more innocent lives and families.

This site contains true stories of brave people including those misled by "do it yourself therapy books", accusers duped by bad therapy,  innocents who endured horrid false accusations (many innocents lose careers, are imprisoned or impaled by grief); and those who watched in horror as the damage was done to lives and families.
This website is a small effort to light the darkness with truth.
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    State collected data, insurance studies, lawsuit payouts and asset seizures have largely ended the use of "regression therapies" by insured therapists and established institutions since the 1990's.  Courtrooms now require scientific validation and have ceased allowing the false information generated by "recovered memory therapies."  "Do It Yourself Therapy" books and well meaning friends are the usual perpetrators of "recovered memory" techniques.
Those untrained in the psychological sciences often misunderstand or are misinformed about what is now common knowledge among professionals that practice ethical competent counseling.
Needlessly fractured families along with innocent people who are defamed and even imprisoned only add to the evidence of how destructive this therapy is.

data from Washington study cited in pg 107 of  "Second Thoughts" by Paul Simpson
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Saturday, July 2, 2016

Health and Freedom


Freedom!
     A therapy that relies on the strength and goodness of the individual is an improvement over a therapy that blames the past and creates "memories". Experts agree that "Recovered Memory Therapy" is unreliable and false even when "memories" are vividly remembered.  In contrast to the destructive and unreliable therapies, Cognitive Therapy emphasizes that there are traps that hold people back from fully realizing their potential including:

1.  Assuming the intentions of others:  We assume that we know what people think without having sufficient evidence of their thoughts. “He thinks I’m a loser.”  This is destabilizing to relationships whether assumptions are correct or incorrect.
2.  Dire expectations:  We predict the future negatively: things will get worse, or there is danger ahead. “I’ll never be able to see my family again.” or “I won’t be able to be a good mother to my children." 
3.  Catastrophizing:  We believe that what has happened or will happen will be so awful and unbearable that you won’t be able to stand it. “It would be terrible if I failed.”  "If I get back in contact with my family they will all hate me."
4.  Labeling:  We assign global negative traits to yourself and others. “I’m undesirable,” or “He’s a rotten person.” or "My family are all horrible.  They hate me."
5.  Discounting positives:  We claim that the positive things you or others do are trivial. “That’s what wives are supposed to do—so it doesn’t count when she’s nice to me,” or “Those successes were easy, so they don’t matter.”
6.   Negative filtering:   We focus almost exclusively on the negatives and seldom notice the positives. “Look at all of the people who don’t like me.”
7.   Overgeneralizing:   We perceive a global pattern of negatives on the basis of a single incident. “This generally happens to me. I seem to fail at a lot of things.”
8.   Dichotomous thinking:   We view events or people in all-or-nothing terms. “I get rejected by everyone,” or “My family is bad.  I need to detach from them completely.”  
9.   Blaming:    We focus on the other person as the source of our negative feelings, and we refuse to take responsibility for changing ourselves. “My parents parents caused all my problems.  They always deny it.  If only my family was not "so abusive" or "so cheap".”
10.  What if?   We keep asking a series of questions about “what if” something happens, and we fail to be satisfied with any of the answers. “Yeah, but what if I get anxious?,” or “What if  my family contacts me when I have told them not to?”
11.  Emotional reasoning:   We let our feelings guide our interpretation of reality. “I feel depressed; therefore, my family must be terrible.”
12.  Inability to disconfirm:  We reject any evidence or arguments that might contradict our negative thoughts.  For example, when we have the thought  I have this depression so I must have had a childhood trauma and then we reject as irrelevant any statements or evidence of all in our immediate family that this event never happened. 

A partial list from Robert L. Leahy, Stephen J. F. Holland, and Lata K. McGinn’sTreatment Plans and Interventions for Depression and Anxiety Disorders (2012).

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